Healthy Mind, Healthy Body
Health includes all part of self. Mind, Body and Soul.
Now what? Can I change my brain to be more optimistic and improve my health?
Like any new learning, it involves a conscious plan and effort. As the quote states, you start with your thoughts.
It comes down to a change in focus and consciously questioning what the inner chatter is saying.
Pay attention to the inner chatter of your mind. Do you notice any of these pitfalls?
1) Comparing yourself to others
Like most of us, you may compare yourself to others and judge yourself according to a belief that you have developed from any number of sources.
Ask yourself: What am I trying to prove in comparing? What do I fear I will discover?
2) Judging yourself by other people's opinions
Often we take other's opinions and see them as truths. Remember just because they say it or think it doesn't mean it is right. "Not one drop of my self-worth depends on your opinion of me." Quincy Jones
3) Defining your self-worth by your mistakes
We often get a sense from society when growing up that mistakes are bad and successful people don't make them. We equate our self-worth with what we have been praised for or others in our immediate environment or society has put value on. It can be status, ability, accomplishments, wealth, body image or any other factors. External things are not who you are. Impress yourself with who you are, not how much you do.
Guess what we all make mistakes, we are all imperfect, and that does not determine our self-worth.
Ask yourself: What is really important to me? What do I value? What can I do today that will make me proud of myself?
4) Focusing on failures rather than successes "Life is a Journey not a destination"
"Failures are part of life, if you do not fail, you do not learn, if you do not learn, you will never change."
Look for the opportunities when things do not go as you would like to be. Take the learning and try again. Celebrate the learning.
5) Being a perfectionist
I hear many people call themselves perfectionists and right it off as a fact of who they are. No choice, it is in my DNA. Sometimes it is said with a negative undertone and other times it is said with pride. Perfectionists have unrealistic expectations. Nothing will ever be good enough so when do you celebrate, appreciate and be happy with things. Being a perfectionist means you need to go back over steps 1-4.
Check out our Cognitive Distortion List to see more examples of how our thoughts might be limiting us.
If you would like more information, give us a call 587-216-8070
Cindy Boily, CPCC, ACC
Pain & Health Management