The most important question here is the last one. Do you want to spend less time worrying and more time living? If you answer yes to this then you can learn what to do to change the other answers.
Codependency is often thought of in relationship to living with an alcoholic, however in its simplest form can be defined as the loss of self by caring and doing more for others than you do for yourself. Another word might be people pleaser. You can feel like you are losing your identity. You may feel like everyone else’s needs are more important than yours. You may not even notice that you are codependent as you are viewed as being very kind and helpful by others.
To understand the root of codependency we most often find links in childhood. A child who has lived in a drama filled, controlling environment that leaves them feeling unsafe, having to learn to read and scan their family members' moods so they can act accordingly to keep the peace or meet their needs. Feelings of being isolated, lost, unloved or even receiving basic needs is common in children that become codependent. These children often suffer in silence and develop a sense of helplessness. They can become disempowered and seek out unhealthy relationships that provides them with what they crave. Love, safety, connection, purpose etc.
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Have you given any thought to your relationship with food?
How do you see food?
What are you habits when you eat?
Is it a mindless thing that you do while checking emails, working at your desk, or shovelling in the food so that you can get back to what you are focused on (your to do list, tv, numbing emotions....)?
In the hustle, bustle of life today we can find ourselves considering food preparation and eating, just another thing that needs to be done. I have often heard people say that if food requirements could be satisfied by a pill it would simplify their lives. That is understandable with the confusion around food today. Organic or not, should I go gluten free, and over 30 years of diet programs.
Have you ever considered going to counselling? Many are missing out on making profound changes in their lives due to a stigma that still exists today around mental health. Anyone wanting to have clarity, find balance and achieve wellness can benefit from counselling.
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This article is relevant for Chronic Disease and Autoimmune Disorders as well.
What is Anxiety?
Anxiety is about thoughts, worries, and beliefs about ourselves and the world around us. This creates physical symptoms to arises when our sympathetic response is activated in our nervous system. AKA as fight or flight response.
These symptoms we recognize when we are faced with life threatening situations. That response is what has us run away from a danger such as a fire or be able to react quickly when our child runs into the street. There are many times when these responses are doing exactly what they are supposed to be doing to keep us safe.
Are you challenged by a person, situation or event that you can't seem to get past?
Do you feel stuck in anger and resentment or are you wanting them to pay in some way for what they did? Both are very normal reactions when we have been hurt and/or something precious has been taken from us.
We have this innate sense of justice especially when the victim of the wrong doing is ourselves or someone we care about. We have this sense that if we forgive them, we are letting them off the hook that they are escaping justice.
You are tired, you are feeling helpless and you just want the pain to go away so you can get on with your life.
When you are living with chronic pain your life is turned upside down. It can affect every area of your life, family, friends, financial, housing, career, social, hobbies, fun activities, self-esteem, sense of purpose and finally sense of hope.
You might feel like you are on high alert unable to relax because of the pain. You may feel judged, misunderstood, frustrated, angry, sad and many more emotions that affect your sense of self. You may have the impression that others think you are making it up, which can even have you questioning yourself. “Is it all in my head?” Many people with chronic pain state that their pain is all consuming and in control of their lives. It can be very unpredictable causing you fear and anxiety, which slowly limits your activities more and more. Completely understandable.
How can counselling and CBT help?
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