I turned to counselling after learning how years of chronic stress was the main contributor to 14 years of living with daily chronic migraines. It was almost funny when I started to study neuroscience, the autonomic nervous system and how pain was processed in the brain. It was funny because at the time, if anyone would have asked me if I was stressed I would had said no. You see compared to my earlier years, I was in a great place. I had a job I loved, married to a wonderful man and had 3 beautiful children when my migraines started. What I did not understand was that our bodies are like history books, they hold past experiences and beliefs that cause reactive responses in our brain that can trigger the stress response in our bodies unconsciously from anyone of our senses. Like hearing a favourite song from your childhood might put a smile on your face or smelling mom's homemade cookies. The same is true when the boss drops a pile of work on your desk at 4:30 saying that you are expected to complete it before going home or coming home after a difficult day to find yourself yelling at your children or partner.
Everyone has some insecurities, and a little voice in their head that I call the saboteur that if you listen to it will keep you stuck in an elevated level stress response.
10 Life-changing Benefits to Counselling
Without it, you can be stuck in a reactive response leaving you in a confused fog of living.
Developing self-awareness allows you to become consciously aware of your thoughts, behaviours and responses as if you were an observer. Like a fly on the wall. You begin to make sense of things, thus bringing a sense of clarity and understanding. This puts you in a starting place to consider change.
2. You will notice patterns in your thoughts and begin to manage them
With an estimated 60,000-80,000 plus thoughts running through your mind every day, you can recognize how your thoughts have the potential to shape your mood and life. Once you begin to notice ‘the monkey brain’ mindlessly jabbering away in your head, you are suddenly more in command of your thinking.
3. You will live more in the moment
If you have chronic stress, anxiety or depression, you might spend a good deal of time either worrying about the future or regretting the past. Counselling can help you live more mindfully in the present and to feel more peaceful and connected to the world.
4. You will understand why you do things which don’t make sense
Maybe you turn to food and overeat, drink too much or even turn to drugs. Maybe you are often feel angry and lash out at your partner or children. Perhaps you are confused or ashamed by your behaviour and wonder why you can’t ‘just stop’. Counselling provides a safe place to explore what is behind the behaviours that you would like to change.
5. You will begin to value yourself, increase self-confidence.
Perhaps you stop yourself from trying new things due to that little voice in your head that might be saying things like: You are good enough, you will never succeed in doing that why try and many more statements that keep you stuck. Maybe you have become a people pleasure living on empty because you never find the time to fill yourself back up. Counselling can help you to recognize the value in showing yourself true consideration and empathy.
6. You will begin to make sense of the past
Learn how your past has influenced the person you are today. There can be exceptional value gained in understanding the past. Old wounds can be healed and painful experiences worked through. Allowing more choice in creating your future.
7. Your relationships can become more meaningful
In understanding yourself better, you also learn to understand those relationships that are important to you better. You may come to appreciate and invest more in empathetic listening, better communication skills. You might also decide to take a step back from relationships that are toxic or hindering your wellbeing. The therapeutic relationship of counselling offers a practice arena for relationships in the real world.
8. You will become braver and less anxious
The world may have become a fearful and antagonizing place. You might have good reasons or experiences that validate this world view. Counselling can support you in healing from these difficult experiences, so they have less of an impact. You can begin to create your own safe-passage through the world tapping into your happiness and fulfilment.
9. Loving yourself and others
An inner peace and contentment when you learn to allow yourself to be ‘you’. As you learn to accept your beautifully flawed and imperfect self, this can be an incredibly powerful, healing and joyful experience.
10. Improve your physical health
Processing the thoughts, beliefs and feelings that are creating a toxic stress-filled body will have a direct effect on your health. 75% of all doctor's visits are for stress related symptoms and stress and lifestyles are the underlying factors in the top 5 of Canada's leading causes of disease.
(heart disease, cancer, stroke, respiratory, accidents).
Counselling can transform your life, love and health.
Have questions? Ask them today and start making the changes you want in your life.